Cramped! That is the way people generally feel their lives to be. It is quite common to see people (us included) trying to squeeze in one task after the other. Having space and time seems to be fantasy for most of us. However, when we do have that space, our mind is still working overtime to make us do JUST ONE MORE THING.
What exactly drives a person to declutter or pursue minimalism? It is the need and desire to breathe without feeling claustrophobic. Whether it be a space in our house, on our desktop, on our calendar or even in our relationship, we all are looking for space.
What really happens when our lives are packed? We stop enjoying life and just watch the life pass by. What about our houses packed with stuff? Half of the time, we are unsure what is where. So is the case with our relationships too. In short, we all crave for some breathing space in one way or the other.
What’s more is that even the pandemic has forced people to maintain some space/distance. Though initially, it was a rude shock for all of us, it gradually became a way of life. Only when we somewhat adapted to the new way of life forced upon us did we realize that it was not too bad after all. In fact, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Space with the rest of the world forced us to draw closer to what and who matter the most to us.
This brings me to another important aspect, which is the value of pause in our lives. Sometimes, we are so busy running at full speed that we miss the beautiful sight whizzing past us. How about if we rather jog or walk and enjoy the beauty too?
Till about a couple months ago, I used to feel responsible for every task and every thing that needed attention. Not only that, I felt that I was solely responsible to help everyone around solve their problems or sort their lives. The fact that I had a big social circle added to the pressure. However, it gradually and thankfully dawned on me that I was not God, so I did not have to solve all the problems, cater to everyone and do every thing. I cannot describe the relief and release I felt within once I understood that.
Things are so much better now since I realize that I need to focus on a smaller but valuable circle of people, stuff and assignments. Obviously, I cannot do it all, and knowing this is so liberating. Hence, I now plan my day in a manner that allows some space.
The best piece of advice I can leave you with is to first pause, then do some introspection on what and who matter the most to you and then, finally, take action on them. The world is a beautiful place and our stories can be beautiful too once we have a breathing space not only in our schedules but our lives as well.
